Advice of the Week column is now back!
I guess some of you might be waiting for this, I'm so sorry about being
Well, now, I'm back on track but might miss posts in between as Semester 2 of college is hectic! LoL.
Here we go:
Q: I've been thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend since a while now. It is not that I don't love her anymore, but, it is just that this relationship is getting load on more and more these days. Bare in mind that she did not complain about anything I do or about her life and this makes me felt worse than having problems. This year, form 4, so many things coming up and parents also started to complain about phone bills. I miss her a lot but yet I trying to cut away from her. She makes me feel bad now. Should I break up with her? (By: S)
A: Dear S, at the age of yours, it is quite troublesome to have girlfriends as you have no driving license and still rely on your parents for allowances. But of course, it is ok to have one to share your feelings and stuff like that. The question of should you break up with your girlfriend is in your hand. Depending on how deep you love her and how much you miss her when you unable to meet her or etc. If you trying to break up, then you should be prepared for few months of 'torture'. If you continue the relationship, then you make sure you are ready to engage with any obstacles in future. So, it's up to your heart to tell you what to do now.
Is the advice ok? LoL. Some might find it offensive but that's what I think of.
Oh yeah, it's Tweety Bird 60th Birthday this week. I received an email though.
Here's her photo.
Signing off
Chris
6 comments:
You can't depend too much on what the rest tell you. Because it is you who have to decide and it is you who bear the consequences. SO you should pose the question to yourself.
Do you thinking. How would you want to be, and how would it be least hurtful than it could be.
But it is not escaping from the question. Keeping a relationship that does not worth keeping is a total stupendity. As you allow each other to fall deeper as time goes.
and Yes, time goes feeling grows.
Do what you think is right, and make it clear to another party that what basis do you think you make such decision. As Another party might not think the same way as you did.
It requires both parties understanding through communication. Together, you make what is best for both.
@Hitomi: thanks for commenting. It the comment refers to me or to S? time goes feeling grows is true but if in the time of continuing the relationship and problems starting to pop up it is a better way to break up. As the understanding of both aren't there anymore.
I addressed to you^^
It depends on how the problems are. If it remains unsolved, and both parties have not even came to a mutual conclusion. then it is sign for you to voice up.
Voice up meaning to say, you bring it up to another party, and see whether she has made the effort to solve the problems with you.
If she has not, you know what you should do.
@Hitomi: it seems that this post has becoming an science subject. ROFL. JK. ok. I do agree that there are many type of problems in a relationship.
Some problems, even though, lead to break ups but yet the tension better both are still there. What i categories this as, not a break up.
When there's something which is bothering or not resolved, which means it is not a break up yet.
The answer is still awaiting both in one way to another.
voice up about the problems, don't work everytime as relationship becomes complicated. Personally, I would say that, break up and voice up should be known in your own heart. As what you wanted. Each and every human on Earth is distinct from one to another.
Nah, it is not an but a science project (sounds more like an english project)
Aha, the tension as you were saying, is just wasting both parties time. You let the problems drags over and let both minds being occupied - is it what you want??
You feel miserable for something that You has not solved and yet would it be solved?
COmplication is something that human creates for themselves, to cover their helplessness to overcome the issues. Back to the basis of all elements, it is as simple as an atom, that forms molecules and other mixtures.
Anyway, you are the one who have to decide so you do it the way you wanted and live with it. Don't grunt about something you decided, or even regretted.
ROFL! error there. Depends on ppl. It is not that wasting both parties time. Is just that the tension, even you says you're single, no longer occupied. But yet, the truth is, you're still intact to it.
LOL It's a chemistry project now. ROFL
Well, complication is a type of emotions. Based on the Theory of Emotions by Starcle, it is proven that the desire of feeling insupportable or unbearable is the result of emotions and complication is one of it.
It's our own decision to make what we want. Regrets are rare. But yes, do have.
BTW. this is not about me la! is for Mr.S
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